If the thought of standing in front of a camera for hours makes your stomach drop, you are in good company. About nine out of ten couples tell me the exact same thing when we first chat: “We really want great pictures, but we are absolutely terrible in front of a lens.”
Here’s the truth: you aren't bad at having your photo taken. You’ve just had uncomfortable experiences in the past. Being forced to freeze, tilt your chin, and hold a fake smile while someone counts to three is awkward for anyone. Your wedding day shouldn't feel like a school photo session.
Here is how to end up with pictures you love without suffering through a stressful photoshoot.
Find someone who lets the day happen
Look for a photographer who works in a relaxed, documentary style. Rather than setting up artificial scenes, a good documentary photographer quietly blends into the background. They capture real, honest moments—the nervous squeeze of a hand before walking in, your dad wiping away a tear during speeches, or the chaos on the dance floor later that night. You get to stay present while they handle the rest.
Make sure you actually like them
You will spend more time with your photographer on your wedding day than almost anyone else. If their personality feels rigid or intense, you will feel on edge. Grab a quick coffee or hop on a video call before booking anyone. If the conversation feels light and comfortable, you’ll naturally feel relaxed when they step behind the lens.
Consider a short pre-wedding session
Think of it as a low-pressure test run. Spending an hour taking a stroll somewhere quiet takes all the mystery out of the process. You will realize right away that there are no weird poses to memorize and no expectations to perform. By the time your wedding day arrives, having them around feels second nature.
Planning your wedding?
If you want genuine memories of your day without any awkward posing, I’d love to hear about your plans. Send over a message and let's have a chat.
